How to Handle Unintended Pregnancies



After hearing that you are pregnant, when you’re not expecting it, can be quite overwhelming and it can stir up a whole lot of negative emotions and stress too. It is also a challenge for both you and your partner. At times, you might feel as though you’re all alone and that nobody cares. When that happens, it might be helpful to pursue therapy… speaking to a licensed counselor. You might also be confused about how your future will go and how to handle this unintended pregnancy.

Some common emotions that you might feel upon hearing that you’re pregnant are worry, sadness, frustration, anger, confusion, shock, anxiety, detachment from your baby and the likes.


Here’s What You Can Do After Hearing that You’re Pregnant

Inform Your Partner or the Father of Your Child


It might be difficult if you are separated from your partner before knowing that you are pregnant. But whatever the case might be, he should know about this and he should also share the responsibilities that come with the baby – even if you are no longer together. He could probably help you out financially.


Seek for Support

During this time, you will need all the support you can get. You will also feel better when you have your loved ones by your side. Confide in your parents and ask them to give you their full support. Reach out to your closest friends and cry on their shoulders whenever you need to.


Visit a Pregnancy Center


Now that you are pregnant, you will need to visit a pregnancy center regularly. You will need to go for regular checkups, ultrasounds and get educated about pregnancy. You will also need to explore your birthing options and start planning accordingly. You can seek advice from a midwife or doctor if you are uncertain about which birthing option to choose.


Seek Counseling and Therapy

If you are really stressed out, depressed, can’t deal with your emotions or if you are facing other issues like coping with an unwanted pregnancy, you should seek counseling. A counselor can help you with processing your emotions, among other things.


Give Yourself Some Time

It’s understandable if you’re not ready about the pregnancy or if you’re not looking forward to it either. You need to accept it and to grasp that this is reality. Spend some time alone to think things over. Try and see the positive side of it all and just give yourself a break.


Your Plans Are Not Ruined

It may seem as though your future has been ruined and your school/career will end. This is not the case. You can still make your dreams come true after motherhood. It might take a little time, but it’s possible. In fact, you will be focused and driven to work on your dreams because you will want to be a good role model for your child and you will also want to provide the best for your child.


Advantages of An Unintended Pregnancy

There are some advantages to an unintended pregnancy. It probably won’t seem like it, but read on:

  • You will sort out your finances; having a baby means you will need to plan your finances better.
  • You will learn how to clean up and de-clutter for the benefit of the baby.
  • You will sort out your relationships, whether you end up single or with the baby’s father.
  • You will sort yourself out emotionally and you will become stronger because now, you will have to be strong for the sake of your baby.
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